Today I was driving in my car when suddenly my son (who is 7 years old) said to me:” Mum, I think I don’t have an ego anymore”! I had to laugh a little on how convinced he was about this fact. So I asked him, how he got this idea.
But how can I know that it is the ego talking to me.
“That’s actually quite easy” I said. “The ego will never be happy with the present moment. It will either linger in the past and talk about things you should have done differently, or it will give you a dark and negative perspective about your future, from which you only can be saved, if you listen to it.
“But what does the ego say for example? Can you play the ego”.
So I picked some subjects that I knew my son wasn’t too happy about: “I think Louis wants to take away your best friend David. This is how it starts and then he will go on and take them all away and then you will be all alone and have no more friends to play with and no one will invite you to their birthday party.”
“How would you react to that?” I asked him.
“I would say shut up…but I guess it is not a good idea to get into a discussion with the ego because then it goes on and on…I should rather say “really, is that so” and then not listen to it anymore.” my son replied.
“That is totally correct” I answered. Fantastic choice. The ego will always try to engage you in a story so it can feed of your fears.
“Yes I know, the ego loves fear”
Exactly, because it want to have control over your life, and fear is the easiest way to make you act the way the ego wants.
But why does the ego exist anyways? I never wanted to be in my ego.
Because if the ego wouldn’t exist you could not get to know your soul. Imagine it would always be summer, then you wouldn’t know that it was summer. Only thanks to the winter, we know the difference. When you identify the ego, you will realize when you make a decision from fear and due to the story the ego tells you but on the other hand now you can also identify the soul and feel if something you want to do doesn’t come from fear but from a light place.
It feels like watching a movie of your life that is being provided by your soul and you have someone constantly interrupting with unimportant and negative chatter. Like this, you won’t be able to hear clearly what your soul wants to say to you and what path it wants to take you on.
My son replied:” I won’t allow the ego to take my dream away – I want to be a veterinarian”
“Of course not”. When you stay present in your soul, no ego can take your purpose in life away.
“But how did I know what I want to be”?
Because you feel it in your soul. We are all here on earth for a reason, a purpose you have to fulfil and your soul helps you and guides you on this path. So the more you present you stay the easier things will fall into place.
Thats why I am saying I don’t want to have the ego anymore.
Yes that would be kind of a solution. But be careful, the ego won’t give up its influence and importance that easily. It is very stupid when it comes to giving advise but very smart when it wants to survive and continue to control you. The ego will be creative and even the fact that you think that you don’t have an ego anymore might e just a trick from your ego to let go of your guard.
“I don’t understand that”
“Well it is a little bit as if your friend says he wants your football but you don’t want to give it to him. Then he walks away and starts pretending he doesn’t care anymore, but in reality he wants it. So he tries to trick you into giving it to him by pretending that he doesn’t annoy you anymore.